I want to get myself into therapy but I’m scared

Starting therapy for the first time can get very scary and nerve-racking. You are asked to talk to a stranger about the most private and vulnerable parts of yourself. There are no standard guidelines on what to expect or how the interaction will go so you are throwing yourself into the abyss. Is it worth it? It depends on what you are looking for when you make the decision.

First of all, with a few exceptions, your therapist is not allowed to disclose anything about you or your therapy to anyone without your permission. The provider you choose will guide you, encourage you and help you understand how the mind works. Maybe even teach you some tools or useful techniques to get rid of some annoying symptoms. And yes, it‘s uncomfortable at times (going to the dentist is no walk in the park either).

Keep in mind that important component of success is finding a therapist that is not only qualified but that is a good fit with your interpersonal style. So, do your research. Interview more than one therapist before you make the decision about whom to work with using their free consultation option and ask as many questions as you need to feel satisfied (I’m surprised every time clients don’t know what to ask me when I offer to respond to all their questions). Read about the providers you feel drawn to (most of them will have bios on their websites or psychology directories, like Psychology Today). You will know when it feels right, when you find someone who makes you feel comfortable, at ease, who seems to understand you. And then, give it a try. Attend a few sessions and get a taste of what it will be like working with that professional. If it doesn’t feel right, it’s OK to drop out and find someone else.

Therapy has the potential to be the best thing that ever happened to you if you are committed to make it work.